SAHM’s Need It More Now Than Ever!…PERIOD
Doesn’t it feel like we are living a crazy a$$ nightmare? It seems like it’s never ending. We have no where to go and too much to keep up with at home. We are constantly having boring a$$ conversations with our kids just to keep them entertained when they don’t have any of their friends to FaceTime or play with on Roblox.
“What can I do that’s fun now?” Seems to be the ongoing question of the day. Even though they have ten million toys in their room, they still somehow seem to end up bored.
“Can you watch me play this game?” Translates to sit here next to me even though I will ignore whatever you say or ask. I basically don’t want you to be productive around the house and want to hold you captive in my room.
It really isn’t all peaches and roses being a stay at home mom. It’s damn hard. It’s exhausting, a juggling act, but rewarding and fulfilling at the same time. You confused yet? Think about it this way. Us mothers that are able to be home with our kids and have the ability to give that hands on experience is something that can be very beautiful and fulfilling. Because we are able to be the ones our kids are coming to, we are helping them, guiding them through the day, keeping them safe. We are in control (for the most part) as we watch them grow and evolve. And that alone is a blessing. It’s something not every mom is fortunate to experience. Of course like working moms, it comes with the good and the bad. We are all moms just doing the best we can because these little humans are depending on us (even when they say they know everything).
With being home all day, sometimes we feel removed from the outside world. And maybe even our own spouses or the ones we lean on. Our day is so consumed that we might not always feel the gratitude. I had a moment when I was playing with our son and I couldn’t figure out something in a game. He immediately wanted to take it from me and do it himself. He was being an impatient pain in my a$$. The audacity he has when I am trying to have a bonding moment. I was frustrated, he was frustrated, we were frustrated. His comment as he walked away from me was something like “well I could do it because I know how but fine then suit yourself”.
You know what I did…I kindly reminded him that I am here, trying to spend time with him and play games with him and I was not going to tolerate that type of attitude. Just because you know how to do it doesn’t mean you need to take it from me. You need to be happy and appreciate that I am here with you trying to spend time and play games together. I was serious too. I meant it. And he needed to hear it.
Moms, at least from what I’ve heard or haven’t heard, aren’t getting thank you for staying home with me cards, flowers from a grateful child just because. The showing of love to stay at home moms, I feel, is not something that happens enough or is normalized. After I said what I said I went into the bathroom and cried. Why? Hell if I know, because I am emotional, I am a perfectionist, I don’t want any conflict at home. But I am human. I am a mom trying to figure it out just like thousands of other moms. I am not perfect, I have not figured out that amazing balance of spending time with our son and then having my time to be the awesome momtrepreneur I am striving to be.
We mommas need to normalize the gratitude we receive. We need to speak more about our hurdles so we feel like it’s ok. We need more now than ever. Especially with a pandemic that is keeping us from meeting up for coffee or at the mall just to chat.