How many mommas are misunderstood daily? How frustrating can it be, especially when it’s coming from a genuinely good place of intent? Of course I am sure there are times when it can come from a place of not being genuine, but that’s not what I want to touch on in this blog. I want to speak to how us as moms, wives, spouses and supporters can have something we believe strong in, know of, heard about, read about or something else and want to share and express it to others, with the hopes that they will feel the same.
I can’t speak and won’t speak for all mommas, but too many times I have seen and heard where there are good intentions and reasoning behind something being said or done but it gets taken out of context and blown out of proportion. It could have come from a place of a good heart, it could come from a place of concern or fear and not be taken or interpreted that way. And that in turn can create tension, sadness, resentment, anger and so many other emotions that are unexpected for everyone involved.
Us women and mommas are a ball of emotions and thoughts and scenarios already, so you can imagine where it takes us and what it makes us do when we have one vision and get a totally different outcome. This is, what I would say, is our curse. We cannot help our emotions, are sensitiveness, it’s just in our DNA! But when do we allow ourself to let go of what we can’t control. When do we just stop and say, ok this isn’t my battle and this isn’t for me to stress or overthink if the other person doesn’t feel the same about. I think sometimes that’s where we can do better.
It’s not a bad thing that we want others around us to be better, do better, be healthier, more people conscious, more compassionate, more appreciative etc. But, we cannot control that narrative as much as we would like to, and we need to remind ourselves of that. We, as women and mommas, sometimes have to stop and work on that to better ourselves, because what we are so passionate for others may not be their passion for themselves. And that’s OK! We need to accept that and give ourselves peace of mind knowing we said our peace, we made our case and we must move on. Our good intentions are misunderstood sometimes, and then it creates a whole domino affect that can actually make things worse than better.
In order to keep a good peace of mind, good energy and calm us women and mommas have to work a little harder at not internalizing what’s not meant to be internalized. Once we accept and learn how to move on we will create a more comfortable day to day to navigate through. It’s ok to be misunderstood sometimes, as long as we know how to respond.