I, like so many other mommas, have moments. Some are great, positive, fun moments, and some are too much for my own brain to handle. I am a thinker. I am an over thinker. I am OK with who I am because it’s me. Do I always like being a thinker? Absolutely not haha! I think women in general, especially mommas, we put so much pressure on ourselves all the time. Instead of seeing the good and the positive automatically, we question what we could have done better, what we aren’t doing good and if what we are doing is accepted.
Does this mean we want it to be this way? I don’t think so. I think society has created this expectation of what a momma and wife should look like and be doing that sometimes we get caught up in everyone else’s perception we lose our own. It’s not right and it should never be ok to fall into this, but it happens. The more I continue to push my mom blog and my momma apparel that I have begun creating, I feel like I am becoming wiser in my thoughts. The things that use to get me upset or sad aren’t necessarily making me feel that way, I am accepting of things I didn’t want to before and I am ok with not being a brand for everyone.
The best thing I did when the pandemic happened was create my mom blog because it gave me a voice and has allowed me to connect with other mommas. We come from different backgrounds, have different views, live in different areas but we are all supporting and encouraging each other. There’s no judgment on what we are or aren’t doing good, negative comments rarely happen and it’s just a feel good environment. The more I continued to search and engage with other mommas, parenting and wives I noticed that my algorithm was what I was wanting to see. I am not interested in young influencers that aren’t parents or married, I am not interested in seeing women that have everything hanging out and are bent over trying to get attention, I am not looking for any males to comment on any of my posts or follow me, I am only interested in my momma and wives and family community and I really love it. It fits me. It’s what I am comfortable with. I am ok if it’s not for everyone, I don’t care. What others are interested in is their journey and their perspective, not mine.
Before, I use to get upset when my inner circle didn’t support me. I couldn’t understand why they wouldn’t. It didn’t seem fair to me. When I would post my products and people would comment but not repost or buy I took it personal. And I was really offended when everyone wanted something for free but never helped me progress. It sucked. It wasn’t a great feeling. I got really discouraged and just was always emotional about it. Trying to do what my vision was and not feeling like extended family or even close friends would check in to make sure I was good or was doing ok would bother me too. I often would feel like I was the one making the effort. I would hear oh we should keep in touch more, or we aren’t acting like a family, but at the end of the day the harsh reality was that a lot of people will say certain things but won’t back it up with actions. It’s frustrating. I know those thoughts I had, I wasn’t the only one having them. I know that so many other mommas go through the same thing.
Do I still have those thoughts and feelings sometimes, absolutely! But what I do understand now more than ever is that I am not the only one that has experienced something like that, and that may not be the last time I feel that way. I am only in charge of my own journey, my own vision and my own thoughts. The minute I began being less apologetic of me, and accepting what was I began to see more blessings and more doors opening. This was when I was really having my ahhh haaa moments. Doesn’t mean I don’t have those discouraging moments, it just means I can see, acknowledge and focus on doing what’s going to be best for me. Discouragement will always happen at some point. it’s normal. It’s apart of life. But that doesn’t mean we need to allow discouragement to take control of us mommas! Our family looks to us for our strength, support and love and we cannot allow our energy to be affected.
Reasons To Not Be Discouraged Momma
- Your journey is yours only, no one else’s
- Your visions and thoughts matter
- Your family looks to you, appreciates you, and loves you unconditionally
- You have support with your momma community
- You are beautiful
- You have come far from where you were before, be proud of yourself