Supporting The Ones That Support Us

Because our rocks deserve some more recognition …

When I was doing my online search for tips and tricks to being a SAHM, I found one commonality that I was not finding…how am I not reading about the support that the SAHM has at home? And this very well could be because I needed to continue to dig some more, I know they are out there. I started my blog because I wanted to connect with other SAHMs that were recently transitioning due to the pandemic, and I wanted to feel as if I was apart of a community that shared some things in common.

In wanting to do that I am also curious to know what type of surrounding help they are receiving as well because I think that can help us mommas while we are experiencing what we are experiencing. Whether it’s a single mom trying to hold it together and juggle just being home all the time or a wife of multiple kids holding down the house while her husband goes into the work world to keep them afloat, there is someone behind a SAHM supporting her in her transition. I know not everyone’s situation is the same, not everyone lives the same and will experience the same things. I can only speak to my experience along the way. I can only comment and acknowledge what I am facing during these difficult and uncertain times.

If it wasn’t for my rock, my best friend, my fiancé, I don’t know how I would be strong enough to get through the school days, the long days and nights of never ending kid time that can seem like they are sucking the life out of me. Without him I wouldn’t be able to be the nurturer I know I was meant to be, keep our house in tack, keep us all on track with our meals, laundry, doctors and dentist appointments and anything else that comes up. I am able to stay home because of him, I am able to get my nails and hair done (when they are open) because of him. I have a roof over my head and clothes on my back because of him. I wouldn’t be in the position I am in right now, able to stay home and take care of my boys if it wasn’t for him.

Why am I bringing this up some mommas might ask? Because as I was thinking about the lack of acknowledgement I was reading for other SAHMs and I started thinking about my position and how I feel I am truly blessed and fortunate to have the support I do. I think and over think maybe more often than not, but it’s just who I am. So for me, I want to understand the whole dynamic of being a SAHM. I’m still new to this transition so I like to think about the entire picture. And, I wouldn’t be in the position to be a SAHM if it wasn’t for him, so it’s very important for me to acknowledge that. And doing that I also think it’s important to acknowledge and show gratitude to my fiancé. He deserves it. He busts his a$$ every day on back to back conference calls (since covid shut things down) making sure to still hold the house down. He does an amazing job at it, even during his difficult days.

Imagine what it’s like for the supporters of us SAHMs, what thoughts and fears they might have on a daily. We don’t always know what they are thinking, we just know they hold it down. But for me I like to go a step further, I like to show him, even when I don’t understand everything he has to deal with on a daily basis, I appreciate him and our boy (and even the dog) appreciates him. I leave notes for him on the mirror in the bathroom with a dry erase marker so he sees it at night before coming to bed, or first thing in the morning. I put post it notes in places that will be a surprise for him. I will leave a note on the car so when I know he has to go somewhere he knows I am always thinking about him. And that’s just giving you a little bit of what I do. That’s just me. Because I am a thinker, and I know that while I am maintaining the house and keeping on top of our son while he’s distant learning, I want him to know I am always thinking and appreciating him as well. And sometimes those small notes go a long way, it might hit on a hard day and make him smile.

Maybe that’s just me…these are just my thoughts. but I would love to get other SAHMs ideas and tips on their support and how they show and appreciate what they do.