How to tap in when it’s tough
We were finally coming out of 2020 and there were so many excited to leave it behind. So many hopeful that now we will finally see the turn around we’ve been waiting for. It was midnight and all over the world were saying bye 2020! Some had middle fingers up, some drank it through, some were just happy to live to see the minute hand go into a new year. It seemed amazing right? But within a week, so many of us (myself included) that were excited to see 2021, had already had the wind knocked right out of our chests with the news and history we were beginning to watch unfold right before our eyes. It felt like it was all within a blink of an eye and our positive, energetic moods were being crushed by negative and dark energy.
No matter what our surroundings are, no matter where we are, no matter our perspectives on current events, everyday matters, we all at some point will face hard times we need to overcome. We will have to cancel out the noise and continue to move on. We are mommas that have little ones that depend on us, that look to us for the little and big things. And they might not understand when we are having moments of fear, insecurity, depression, anxiety and doubt. They know we are mom, and we figure it out, we got their back, we make things happen. Some people might be this should be enough reason for us to stay positive and show positive. But let’s be real, that’s just not how we think or feel. We are human, as the cliche goes.
We hear it over and over again, stay positive and positive will happen. Thats great, but I think sometimes it may take just a little bit more than that. I think there are a few other things to take into consideration on what can assist and sometimes affect when we aren’t in a positive mindset.
> What is your support system like? Are they encouraging? Do they listen to you when you have doubts and concerns? How do they uplift you? If your support isn’t assisting in being positive and hopeful how do they expect you to?
>Do you surround yourself with like-minded individuals? And when I am asking you to think about that I am not just referring to your spouse or a relative. Are the other mommas you talk to on the same page as you in general? It’s something to really stop and think about. You might think you have like-minded mommas around, but dig a little deeper and understand more than just what you might have in common like the same latte or clothing choice.
>Depending on what age your kid/kids are, do you talk to them about everyday situations, challenges, obstacles even you face so they can see the real you, the real world and understand how to adjust with the times? We know kids are smarter than we give them credit for, and sometimes they see the things we are trying to hide and ignore, like our feelings that are less than positive. A tiny bit of encouragement may come from your son or daughter when they see you having a moment and can help you get through the moment.
>Do you look around and remind yourself how blessed and better you are than so many others? Sometimes we are so engulfed and our vision is so saturated with the posts of others we compare ourselves to we may not even know that we are failing remember how our situation is better than some less fortunate. I think small reminders like this can help turn our dark moments into a positive mindset.
These few points may seem simple, but for myself, I know that if sometimes I forget to think about these there’s a possibility some other mommas like me are doing the same. I am not a fan of cliches, but I find myself going to them in times like these and try my best to apply them when needed. There have been videos I’ve seen, posts or quotes I have read or even listened to someone speak words that triggered my mindset into a better space. You just never know where it’s going to come from, but as long as you are willing to receive it when it comes you are doing your best. You got this momma!
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